Respect: a matter of national security

Good morning!

Just now I was having some thoughts I felt like writing down. The topic of today is borders.

I just saw an ad of the local fascist party, claiming so many and many immigrants had come to our country in the last year and how they are threatening our national identity as a people.

So, I can understand this feeling of wanting to set limits and strengthen your borders.

I have had many issues and many times when my personal limits were transgressed, and where my personal borders were not respected. Where my identity was not acknowledged and given the credit I felt it deserved.

I think this is the deeper dimension of our problems with the rise of nationalism and fascism, that in these times, people are crying out for limits and borders. On a personal level, I think.

So in my life, it often involved women. Women who could not and would not accept no for an answer. They wanted me to like them, and to want them, but I just wasn’t interested. They became very angry, I guess they were disappointed, but it was to an extreme and irrational degree. I had done something wrong by refusing their ambitions, and they kind of hated me for rejecting them, even though I was just being honest about how I felt. I just didn’t want them, I just wasn’t interested.

So sometimes, they would just rape me anyway, and since you can’t hit a woman or hurt a woman physically, I had to take this behavior and let them have their way. Other times, they just started making such a fuss and being such a spoilt crybaby who just wasn’t used to not getting what they wanted. They wanted me, so they would have me, and even though I said ‘no, I am not interested’ like ten or twenty times, they would always show up again at my doorstep with the same goal and the same blind and deaf ambition. In the end, then, I grew tired and gave up, and so, once again, they got what they wanted.

So personal limits and the cry for respecting my borders, in my case, was mostly a sexual thing. A thing that revolved around my physical space and my right to have feelings that were acknowledged and respected.

And I think, really, a lot of these people that come knocking on our borders, nationally, have had serious problems where they felt their borders, personally, were under siege.

That may have been in their countries of origin, and it may even have been our own imperialism and greed as western countries that disrespected their integrity and their right for self-governance.

So, what we see, often, is that they come to our countries, seeking precisely the possibility for a firmer sense of security, acknowledgement and limits. And when they get here, they try, often within some form of community, to build up their sense of space and the borders they could not uphold in their original homes.

So it is kind of a paradox, that these people would want our borders to be open, just so they can close their own. But it is not really a contradiction. They want a safe place to experience some form of personal respect and integrity.

You can ask yourself, if they can get it here, if we won’t even let them have it in their own countries.

To me, the essence of the issue is the ego, and the way this seeks to dominate its property, which is the human soul. The ego wants total dominion and control over the instance of the drive, the original awareness. It wants this, so it can lead a life of its own, without interference from the heart. This is the psychodynamic relation of the ego to the soul, a state of possession, of standing completely over the heart and soul in full power of control and domination. This is the nature, the quality, the personality or scent if you like, of the ego. It stinks.

So you can see, that it won’t stop there. The ego seeks to control everything that moves. It wants to control cockroaches with microchips, it wants to control the working class with economics, it wants to control someone else by physical force. It even wants to control I guess the oil supply by military occupation.

All of this, because it will not let the heart be free, it will not let the soul have its way. It will not accept that nature speaks.

So the need to dominate things, to have things under its control, is really a never ending story. It is greed, it is aggression, it is the need to subdue. And the ego will seek control through speeches of panic, instilling fear and illusion, as to why we need to occupy and control this or that person. And the fears are all based on the fear of death.

The girls I talked about, feared they would die if they could not have me.

So it is a very deep fear, and a very stubborn fear, and a very obnoxious speech that the ego delivers. What nonsense was that? But it inspired a quest and a conquest which was no longer pretty and had nothing to do with love and romance. It was all about the fear and the self-image, ego, needing to dominate and control. For reasons of security. Just to be sure.

So I guess if we tried to see, that all of life cannot always be as we would want it, if we would accept that life is what it is, then maybe we could surpass the ego and just take a deep breath for once, and be ok with things. We cannot always have our way, even though capitalism tries to prove we can.

But even capitalism will not have the last word.

Sometimes life is what it is, and things are just the way they are. Sometimes a person doesn’t want you the way you want him or her. Sometimes the oil belongs to someone else.

And really, in truth, you are not going to die because of this.

So don’t start to panic, and don’t start to be influenced by the speeches of the ego. It is a bunch of bullshit. And please, don’t start to make the other suffer because of your insecurities and your feelings about the end of the world. It is all relative, and the other has a right to his or her limits and borders too.

So if it wasn’t for the imperialism and the greed of the ego, forever seeking to be king over this or that, forever needing to own and control more and more, if it wasn’t for this sick progression, then maybe there would be safe borders and none of us would get raped or violated. And none of us would have to move, and none of us would have to run, and none of us would have to flee.

And we would not have to try and build our borders and security somewhere else.

And when we arrive in that promised land, we would not find a bunch of people who are also having their own borders trespassed. Who have to deny having limits and a need for security and integrity with regards to their workload and their boss, or with regards to the internet and Facebook selling their identities for profit. People who feel traumatized by the world as well, and who are also crying for a firmer sense of limits and borders.

And maybe when you get there, you will find them all crying this to you.

In the end, I am sure we can all understand one another way better than we think.

Respect, we just all crave some respect.

And a little less of the ego and its fear of death.

So let’s not panic, and let us find some common ground. Some ground to build new walls. Walls of respect, walls of identity and walls that are a sign of integrity and being acknowledged. And let us no longer deny each other that. A sense that our emotions are being validated and our words are being heard.

Because now, the fascists have us fighting one another, instead of joining hands. And once again the ego has its way, aggression and greed grow and grow, and as the Revolutionary Dub Warriors sing on their album State Of Evolution “we’re all refugees and we’re living in a worldwide war zone”. More aggression fuels the insecurity, and more panic fuels the greed. And it is a circle, that is not human and certainly not pretty. And it is not rational, and I hope we will one day understand.

We all want the same thing.

We want the right to be who we are.

Nobody should be another person’s property and no one should control another’s life.

We are free, and we are self-empowered.

Anarchy. Tolerance. Peace.

I know it is difficult to see these days, but it is the actual truth. And we must fight for it, for it to be our true reality. No more aggression, no more greed fueled by panic and illusions. No more madness, stop the insanity. Just live and let live. And let us love and respect each other whilst we are on this beautiful planet living our most beautiful dreams and all of the magic of creation.